5 rad new dating apps you haven’t heard of yet

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the next gen of dating is here.

Finding a soulmate can be hard, but dating doesn’t have to be. With the swipe of a finger a multitude of potential matches and—lets face it… internet stalkers—passes right by your eyes. The intake of so many faces can feel daunting and depressing, but there are a new batch of apps that can actually make the endgame seem worth it. Though we all know the basics: Tinder, OKCupid, Grindr,, here's a short list of entertaining alternatives that might just match you with the lover that'll have you swiping right.

Do you have that friend who is constantly trying to introduce you to their friend-of-a-friend’s-friend? Hinge helps you avoid awkward introductions and uses your Facebook network to find you someone that isn't a total stranger.
How it works: Users sign in through Facebook, and once a day you’ll receive small batches of potential matches to pass on or like.  Liking someone will land them in your queue, and if they like you back you can begin to chat.
Justin McLeod, Hinge CEO and founder says, “The concept of meeting naturally, through your existing social circles, just as you would serendipitously at a dinner party or wedding, is something that has really resonated.” Instead of connecting users through geo-location, the app connects socially only through second or third party friendships.
Likelihood for love? Despite the thin selection, at least you already know that you have some people (and thus, perhaps, some interests) in common. 


Good things come in threes. Three-piece suits, Destiny’s Child, long weekends. In sexual equivalence, a threesome is the ultimate…three, and with the emergence of the app 3nder, it’s now easier than ever to satisfy those ménage a trois fantasies.
How it works:  Users will log on as a couple or a single person, and swipe up and down to find matches nearby. The app discreetly connects through Facebook for profile pictures and age. A personalized list of desires also helps users find matches with similar interests, ranging from from vanilla to 50 Shades Of Grey.
For $1.99 you can hide from Facebook friends and family—eeek!—who might also be using the app. London based founder Dimo Trifinov also has a social initiative in mind. He hopes the app will “make our society more open by accepting the open-minded and their desires.”
Likelihood for love? You aren't really using this app to find romance, are you? 
Coffee Meets Bagel
One is all you need, especially when you are longing for love in the Big Apple (or any large, intense city). With an overwhelming pick of potential suitors, Coffee Meets Bagel aims to simplify dating.
How it works: Once again obtaining information through Facebook, each day at noon the app presents one match (a "bagel", if you will). You then decide to eat—figuratively—the bagel or pass in hopes for a better flavor tomorrow. When passing, you can give a reason such as “too many selfies,” so the app can better understand your preferences.
One match a day takes patience and a romantic sensibility. Dawoon Kang, a co-founder, assures that users find the app’s simplicity refreshing. “We hear from our members all the time how much they appreciate getting one person a day because it forces them to consider each match seriously instead of treating it like another piece of screen!” she says. The moral of the app? Quality, not quantity.
Likelihood for love? It depends. Do you really know what you want, or is window-shopping half the fun? 
Sorry, ladies, this one is not for you. Sure, there are dozens of gay dating apps on the market (after all, Grindr was one of the first location-based apps available) but SCRUFF offers an outlet for the burlier chap with the ever-present 5 o'clock shadow.  
How it works: After creating a profile with stats, a picture, and tribe association (jock, twink, etc), users connect with guys nearby by sending a “woof” or a message. Potential “dates” are not limited to a close radius. An international map allows users to see other guys in different areas to connect with as well.
“While the guys do tend to lean physically SCRUFFier,”says Johnny Skandros, Founder of SCRUFF, ”we feel that SCRUFF is more about fostering an inclusive community than a look.” A new self-service tool also allows non-profits that benefit the LGBT community to advertise for free. If that doesn’t make your chest hairs stand up in excitement, I don’t know what will. 
Likelihood for love? Well, if bears are your thing, you'll be in heaven. 
Queen bee, hive, male workers, honey: The references are clear. From Whitney Wolfe, the female co-founder of Tinder, comes Bumble, an app that puts the power directly into the hands of the gals, in a Sadie Hawkins-type way.
How it works: In the usual Tinder fashion, users swipe to connect with a match. A mutual connection adds the men to the ladies “hive.” She then has 24 hours to make a move by sending a message, or else the match is lost.
Strong, confident women are kinda our M.O., and Bumble takes the crown off Tinderella and on to the Queen Bee. Bumble’s Samantha Fulgham promises, “we are changing the game!” Start downloading; you never know whom you may stumble upon. No joke, I swiped right on Clay Aiken the other day-—so there’s that.
Likelihood for love? Girl power, Tinder-inspiration, easy use...sounds exactly up our alley. 


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"What do girls even do together?" This question, or some iteration of it, is frequently posed to me once someone finds out I'm bisexual or hears me mention my girlfriend, or if I make any reference to being interested in girls. I would be annoyed by it, but I have empathy because I know how hard this kind of information can be to find. In fact, the details of how two people with vaginas have sex isn't very widespread information. And, I know that I didn't really have all that much information about girl-on-girl sex before, well, actually having it myself. It's precisely this kind of situation that queer sex educator Stevie Boebi is trying to fix.

Boebi has gained a big following for her informational YouTube videos about how to use a strap-on, how to scissor, how to fist someone, how to choose a vibrator for yourself; any question you could have, she will get you an answer. She doesn't shy away from topics that people wouldn't be quick to ask someone about IRL, either, like BDSM. And she covers the kind of things that are definitely not what we're taught in sex education classes—likely not even in the most progressive curriculums. A study from GLSEN notes that only 4 percent of teens reported learning anything positive about queer sex in their sex ed classes, and points out that in some states, it's actually prohibited to mention queerness at all.

Particularly when it comes to sex with two vaginas, the lack of available public education leads to a general lack of understanding of how we have sex, which then leads to a lack of understanding in the queer community, too. "I just think that lesbian sex is so oversexualized, and we're the least educated," said Boebi when I asked her recently why it's so important for her to spread knowledge about queer sex in particular.

Boebi said that she started out on YouTube making videos about technology, but after she came out as a lesbian, her audience flipped from mostly male to mostly female, though she would prefer a less rudimentary gender breakdown ("the algorithm only deals in binaries, sorry," she quipped).

Ultimately, her sexuality led her to change her content entirely, because she wanted to educate people who couldn't find answers to their questions anywhere else—even on the internet.

"I started getting a lot of what I called 'stupid questions' from very confused teenage girls saying, like, 'How do I do it? Can I get AIDs from fingering someone?'" Boebi told me. They were questions that probably should have had easily Google-able answers, but, when Boebi looked for lesbian sex education content to send to fans who were asking her, she came up empty-handed. "I couldn't find anything. I think I found, like, two articles on Autostraddle, and that was it," she said. "And then I was like, Well, shit! If no one else is going to do it, then I guess I will."

Boebi's audience is mainly comprised of 13- to 24-year-olds, so she keeps in mind that she's helping people who may not be experienced, or even out yet. She uses her own experiences to inform her work sometimes, but also researches extensively and talks to people she knows who "have fancy Ph.Ds in sexology and shit," who can answer her questions or point her to resources she should be referencing.

Boebi's charm is in her relatability; even if she's talking about things we've been conditioned to feel shame around, she does it in such an open and honest way that all that shame disappears—as it should. She does this by perfectly meshing professional talk with jokes and sarcasm, and even uses characters based on star signs. She knows the importance of taking on taboo topics, because there are so many people who won't otherwise find answers to their questions. "I don't actually struggle in my everyday life asking people if they've ever been anally fisted before," Boebi joked with me. "I'll take that burden."

And keeping her tone light and humorous is of the utmost importance to her. "When people are laughing, they're comfortable, and I want people to feel comfortable," Boebi said. "And I want people to know that I'm comfortable talking about sex, and they can be, too." It helps also, Boebi told me, that her audience is separated by a screen, and she's not "in a room with a 12-year-old talking about my labia."

Beyond instructional sex videos, Boebi also deals with other rarely discussed facets of sexuality and physicality. Boebi is polyamorous, and talks openly about it, confronting the stereotypes and the misinformation about the identity head-on. And, she was also recently diagnosed with Ehler's Danlos Syndrome after going years without a diagnosis, and she aims to start working more with disabled queer sex educators to make her work more inclusive of people with disabilities. Though she pointed out to me that her work was already encompassing of disabilities, she "hasn't been a part of the disability activist community for very long," and so she has a lot to learn.

And, though Boebi's happy that she has the platform she does, she wants a more inclusive array of sex educators to join the scene. "My voice is my voice, and it's unique to me, but I think there should be way more," she noted. "Especially people [with intersectional identities]. That would make me so happy if we could diversify sex educators."

And, though Boebi says there's no "ideal way" to educate people about sex, she's definitely on a better track than the public education system, and she makes clear that there's nothing shameful about sexuality—in fact, it's just a part of being human, and a really fun one, at that.

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The band shared details about their new St. Vincent-produced album that will drop "you into the world of catastrophe"

Sleater-Kinney just shared more information about their St. Vincent-produced album and dropped a new single.

Per Billboard, Sleater-Kinney revealed that their new album, which they've been teasing since early this year and will be their first since No Cities To Love from 2015, will be called The Center Won't Hold. It's due out on August 16 via Mom + Pop Records. "We're always mixing the personal and the political but on this record, despite obviously thinking so much about politics, we were really thinking about the person—ourselves or versions of ourselves or iterations of depression or loneliness—in the middle of the chaos," Carrie Brownstein said in a statement. Corin Tucker further noted that the new album will "[drop] you into the world of catastrophe that touches on the election."

Janet Weiss noted that the band will "explore a different sound palette" with this album, and pointed to St. Vincent as the reason behind it. She said that St. Vincent "has a lot of experience building her own music with keyboards and synthesizers so she could be our guide to help us make sense of this new landscape and still sound like us."

To satiate us until then, the band released a lyric video for new single, "The Future Is Here," which is very grungy. Bump it, below.

Sleater-Kinney - The Future Is Here (Official Lyric Video)


This is so satisfying!

Even Jon Snow knows just how unsatisfying the final season of Game of Thrones was, and he's ready to apologize. Well, a deepfake of him is at least. A heavily-edited version of Snow's speech from the fourth episode—just before the bodies of those lost in the Battle of Winterfell get burned—now features Snow apologizing for the conclusion of the show and lighting the script on fire.

"It's time for some apologies. I'm sorry we wasted your time," Snow begins. "And I know nothing made sense at the end. When the Starbucks cup is the smallest mistake, you know you fucked up! We take the blame. I'm sorry we wrote this in like six days or something," he adds, before signaling to his peers to light the script with torches and "just forget it forever." "Fuck Season 8," he says before the pages begin to crackle and burn.

If there were more lines left to alter, we would have loved to see Snow also tackle how messy Brienne of Tarth and Jaime Lannister's story line ended up, as well as Bran's kingship, Cersei's boring demise, and the water bottle appearance.

Watch the entire deepfake and try to heal the wounds left by HBO below.


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It premieres today, exclusively via NYLON

In LP's song "Shaken," the most recent single from her 2018 record Heart To Mouth, she tells the story of seeing her lover out with someone else—ouch. Today, exclusively on NYLON, she releases a cheeky animated music video that pokes fun at the song's heightened drama and perfectly demonstrates all the angst that comes with falling hard for someone.

"She looks at you like I used to/ And I'm just sitting in the corner sh-sh-shaken," LP sings, as the visual—with art by Maayan Priva—depicts the singer hanging out in a bar, watching the girl she likes meet up with another girl. Despite the situation's inherent drama, "Shaken" is less of a ballad and more of an upbeat bop. LP told us she loves the way "this little video captures some of the fun of the song, and its inherent comical anxiety." Sure, heartbreak isn't that funny, but our (sometimes) overly dramatic reaction to it kind of is.

"'Shaken' feels like a bit of a wild card on this record," LP says. "It's the closest I've come to writing a musical, which I hope to do one day." We heartily endorse this idea: Please, LP, give us the queer jukebox musical we crave.

Until that day comes, though, you can watch the music video for "Shaken," below.

Photo courtesy of Sony Pictures.

This cameo has the Beyhive buzzing

I went to see Men In Black: International alone. Which would have been fine if it wasn't for the shock I received when I saw two specific characters on the screen. Unable to keep it to myself, I shared a curious look with the stranger next to me, who was obviously thinking the same thing as me. "Is that them...?" I whispered first. "I think… so," she replied. Then the two men in question started to dance, and we were both sure: "Yep, that's them."

It was Laurent and Larry Nicolas Bourgeois, better known as Les Twins. Fans of Beyoncé will recognize the duo as the talented brothers who often accompany her on tour and in music videos. In Men In Black: International, the two of them play shapeshifting entities—they're more like energy forces than aliens—who pursue Tessa Thompson's and Chris Hemsworth's characters throughout the duration of the film. The twins' ability to manipulate their bodies in ways that are graceful and otherworldly really helps sell them as extraterrestrials and is fun to watch.

So if Thompson in a suit or Hemsworth shirtless weren't enough motivation, here's another reason to go see it. If you look close, you can see them in the trailer below.