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Cazzie David, Pete Davidson, And The Myth Of “Winning” Your Breakup

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Why does there have to be a loser?

Unless you’ve been living under a rock for the past week, you’ve likely heard about Pete Davidson and Ariana Grande’s very sudden engagement. After reports surfaced that the two were casually dating in late May, their whirlwind romance picked up some serious speed. Earlier this week, it was revealed that the two were engaged—a report that appeared to be quickly confirmed by Grande herself on Twitter.

And while much of the coverage surrounding the newly minted couple has been pretty positive (who doesn't love a whirlwind celebrity romance?), there’s also been a negative side to the coverage—specifically involving Davidson’s ex, Cazzie David.

For a little background, David and Davidson recently broke up after two years together. Confirmed by Davidson, the news of that breakup came right on the heels of Grande’s much-publicized split with Mac Miller—though it wasn’t until People’s report on Grande and Davidson’s “casual” relationship that speculation about the breakups' timelines started to go wild, particularly once it became clear that Davidson and David's split happened right around her birthday. 

Suddenly we were inundated with articles that assigned feelings of resentment and bitterness to Davidson’s exes—including comedian Carly Aquilino. However, most of the focus has landed on David, who apparently can’t even post a photo of herself on vacation without setting off a minor social media storm.

And while David's Instagram seems to be a direct comment on her post-breakup well-being, it's still unfair to presume that this peek into her world means we really know how she's doing. After all, wouldn't you also make a sly joke or two if every other person on the internet was @ing you in the comments? It's hardly an indication of anything other than that David is, like most millennials, prone to using social media in an intentionally enigmatic manner. But people seem hellbent on assigning negative feelings to David and creating a tragic post-breakup narrative for her, turning her into the “shady” ex whose face Davidson recently covered with a new tattoo, and starkly contrasting her sardonic snaps to those cute, Harry Potter Instagrams from Davidson and Grande, as if every complicated moment needs to be broken down into a win-lose dichotomy.

It’s no secret that the public tends to project their own insecurities upon people in the spotlight, so it sort of makes sense that we have a natural compulsion to assign “winners” and “losers,” since we want to think of ourselves as winners in our own lives. After all, when it’s your breakup, it’s quite natural to try and externalize the end of the relationship as the other person’s fault—look no further than the slew of articles online dedicated to identifying signs that you’ve “won” the breakup. No matter how true or untrue it may be that you “won,” coming to terms with an emotionally turbulent experience like a breakup by trying to convince yourself that it didn’t affect you as badly as the other person can be comforting. But that shouldn’t mean we as a public should feel entitled to creating a narrative for Davidson and David.

It's also worth noting that there’s been a marked difference in the tone taken when it comes to reports about Miller’s reactions to the announcement. While Miller has stayed relatively under-the-radar other than one false report that he was “devastated” by the engagement news, David has become a hot topic of gossip and speculation—despite doing a pretty good job at minding her own damn business. Perhaps it’s an extension of our obsession with the “crazy ex-girlfriend,” and a wider tendency to assign emotional hysteria to women? Whatever it is, though, we should know better by this point, and maybe just leave Cazzie David out of a narrative she never asked to be a part of.

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"In my head I thought, This is how it ends"

Kit Harington almost lost a lot more than the Iron Throne while filming the final season of Game of Thrones. According to an interview with NowThis News, the actor almost lost one of his balls while riding a mechanical dragon.

Harington revealed that the incident took place when he was filming the scene where his character, Jon Snow, takes a ride on Rhaegal for the first time in the Season 8 premiere. Since dragons aren't real (sorry), Harington was filming the scene, where Jon almost falls off the dragon and then swings around to pick himself back up, on a mechanical contraption.

"My right ball got trapped, and I didn't have time to say, 'Stop,'" Harington said in an interview. "And I was being swung around. In my head I thought, This is how it ends. On this buck, swinging me around by my testicles, literally." We see shots of the fake dragon he's riding in front of a green screen, and it does look pretty terrifying.

Luckily, his testicles remained intact through the near-disastrous event, and he's survived with quite the story to tell to unsuspecting journalists.

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"I had to create a harder shell about being a woman"

In a panel discussion during Gwyneth Paltrow's In Goop Health summit, actress Jessica Alba revealed that she "stopped eating" to avoid unwanted attention from men when she was first starting her career in Hollywood.

According to People, Alba said that she "had a curvy figure as a young girl" and, as such, was made to feel as though her body was the reason that men may be inappropriate toward her. "I was meant to feel ashamed if I tempted men," Alba said during the panel discussion. "Then I stopped eating a lot when I became an actress. I made myself look more like a boy so I wouldn't get as much attention. I went through a big tomboy phase."

She continued, "In Hollywood, you're really preyed upon. They see a young girl, and they just want to touch you inappropriately or talk to you inappropriately or think that they're allowed to be aggressive with you in a way."

Alba also noted that she was raised in a conservative household. "My mom would say, 'You have a body, and it's very womanly, and people don't understand that you're 12,'" she said. "I wasn't allowed to have my nalgas out, which is butt cheeks [in Spanish], but I was born with a giant booty, and they come out of everything. So, I didn't get to wear normal things that all my friends wore."

She said that these reactions to her body really affected her attitude. "I created this pretty insane 'don't fuck with me' [attitude]," she said. "I had to create a harder shell about being a woman."

According to her, her relationship to her body only changed when her first child, Honor, was born in 2008. "[After she was born,] I was like, Oh this is what these boobies are meant to do! Feed a kid!" she said. "And that was the dopest shit I'd ever done. So, I came into my body as a woman finally and I stopped being ashamed of myself."

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Because of course

Teva, the most obvious lesbian footwear brand since Birkenstock, really knows its customer base. In time for Pride, the brand has teamed up with Tegan and Sara for a gay shoe to end all gay shoes. In other words, your Pride footwear is on lock.

The shoe isn't just your average Teva sandal. Tegan and Sara's design, the Teva Flatform Universal Pride sandal, is a 2.5-inch platform shoe with a rainbow sole. Tegan and Sara noted in a press release that they have been Teva wearers for pretty much their whole lives. "We got our first pair of Teva sandals when we were 16," they said. "This rainbow Flatform collab is like full circle LGBTQ+ Pride validation."

What's better, with each sandal sale, Teva will donate $15 to the Tegan and Sara Foundation, up to $30,000. The funds donated will go toward scholarships which will give young members of the LGBTQ+ community the chance to go to summer camps which will "help develop self-confidence and leadership abilities in a safe and nurturing environment." Tegan and Sara added, "Teva's generous support for our foundation will allow us to help even more LGBTQ+ youth."

Available today at Teva's and Nordstrom's websites, the sandal retails for $80.

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"Focusing on innovative materials will allow the company to explore new boundaries of creative design"

Prada Group has announced that Prada, as well as all of its brands, will now be fur-free. According to a press release from the Humane Society, Prada, Miu Miu, Church's, and Car Shoe will ban the use of fur beginning with the Spring/Summer 2020 collection (aka the Fashion Week coming up next). The list of fashion designers banning fur only continues to grow, with 3.1 Phillip Lim, Coach, Armani, Versace, Gucci, and more having stopped using the material in seasons past.

"The Prada Group is committed to innovation and social responsibility, and our fur-free policy—reached following a positive dialogue with the Fur Free Alliance, in particular with LAV and the Humane Society of the United States—is an extension of that engagement," Miuccia Prada told the Human Society. "Focusing on innovative materials will allow the company to explore new boundaries of creative design while meeting the demand for ethical products."

Following London Fashion Week designers forgoing the use of fur in September and the first-ever Vegan Fashion Week taking place in February, it's easy to imagine an entirely fur-free fashion future. It's especially easy, I presume, for the brands to consider a fur-free future, given that entire cities and states are taking a stance. New York is following in the footsteps of Los Angeles banning fur, with a bill proposed this March that would ban sales across New York State.

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"Club leisure" is the new athleisure

Alexander Wang is recognizing clubbing as the workout that it truly is with his latest Adidas collaboration. In this fifth installment, he "changes gears," per a press release from the brand, taking the iconic sports brand to the dance floor.

For the new campaign, the collection comes to life in iconic choreographer Tanisha Scott's dance studio and stars dancers Noemi Janumala, Dakota Moore, Avi McClish, and Olivia Burgess. The dancers show just how far these clothes can go when you want to bust a move or stretch, but TBH, I'll leave these poses to the pros and just use my clothes for flexing on the 'gram.

The collection—which features six apparel items, three shoes, and six accessories—features, per a press release, "Wang's knack for pre-styling." Standouts from the mostly black-and-white items include a silver sneaker that was *made* for moonwalking, an airy windbreaker that has just the right dash of bright blue with the scattered Adidas trefoil design, and a towel hoodie that you won't feel bad sweating in.

Ahead of the May 25 collection drop online and in stores, peep the gorgeous campaign images below.

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Adidas Originals by AW, Sweatshirt in Black, $250, available starting May 25 at Adidas; Adidas Originals by AW, Towel, $80, available starting May 25 at Adidas; Adidas Originals by AW, Joggers, $250, available starting May 25 at Adidas; Adidas Originals by AW, Turnout BBall Shoes, $250, available starting May 25 at Adidas.

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Adidas Originals by AW, Towel Hoodie, $350, available starting May 25 at Adidas; Adidas Originals by AW, Sock Leggings, $60, available starting May 25 at Adidas; Adidas Originals by AW, Adilette Slides, $90, available starting May 25 at Adidas.

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Adidas Originals by AW, Futureshell Shoes in Platinum Metallic, $250, available starting May 25 at Adidas.

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Adidas Originals by AW, Sweatshirt in Core White, $280, available starting May 25 at Adidas; Adidas Originals by AW, Shorts in Core White, $120, available starting May 25 at Adidas.

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Adidas Originals by AW, Sweatshirt in Black, $250, available starting May 25 at Adidas; Adidas Originals by AW, Bum Bag, $50, available staring May 25 at Adidas; Adidas Originals by AW, Towel, $80, available starting May 25 at Adidas; Adidas Originals by AW, Turnout BBall Shoes, $250, available starting May 25 at Adidas; Adidas Originals by AW, Duffle Bag, $70, available starting May 25 at Adidas.

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