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Slut: Just a word, right? Well... not really. As an insult, it's a way to shame women for their sexuality—but it's also a word that's used to justify rape. Slut, a play, explores those questions and more. It was created by The Arts Effect in collaboration with NYC high school students, and uses their experiences with sexual harassment and slut-shaming to shed light on the fact that girls and women live with an ever-present double standard and a constant threat of violence. The play makes for a riveting read. This edition, published by The Feminist Press and edited by Katie Cappiello and Meg McInerney, also includes essays by noteworthy feminists like Carol Gilligan and Jennifer Baumgardner. 

Read on for an exclusive excerpt from Slut: A Play and Guidebook for Combating Sexism and Sexual Violence about being called a THOT, and let us know if you can relate. We sure can.  

You a tHot Anyways . . . krystal, 17

That Ho Over There

THOT. The first time I heard this word I never thought it’d be as popular as it is now—because of how stupid it is. Amazingly enough, this word has taken over with crazy force. Middle schoolers and forty-three-year-old women know what it means and many of them use it in their daily conversations.

Recently, my mom sent me to pick up my brother in my old neighborhood. I took the bus uptown to the Bronx and this older guy sat next to me. I try to do homework and I can feel him staring at me, but we don’t talk. Everything’s good. Then, as I was about to get off, he asks, “Can I get your number, sexy?” I simply said, “No.” It’s my number and I’m seventeen, and I don’t want to give my info out to some thirty-five-year-old on the uptown bus. “You aTHOT anyways,” he shouted at me, nice and loud— with this fuck-you-bitch sound to his voice. I caught his eye—shot him a look, but didn’t have time to respond, so I just brushed it off and went my way.

Then it hit me. I was just called a THOT by a thirty-five-year-old guy who doesn’t even know who the hell I am. To him, because I rejected him, I was one of “These Hos Out There.” I’m a piece of shit, a slut, trash because I didn’t want to give a stranger my phone number. He spit degrading words at me to make himself feel like a man again. And it made me want to punch a wall because it never ends.

Truth is, this is what we hear everyday. Girls are shamed and humiliated daily by men like that in public places because they don’t smile or strut or look in their direction or give out phone numbers. Most of us girls in the Bronx are known as THOTs or hos to the badass, gang-banger niggas on our streets. Just because we’re female. Female = THOT.

I have a friend named Anna who lost her virginity at a young age. The guy she lost her virginity to immediately went around telling everyone that he got into her pants. The next week her picture was plastered all over Facebook with the caption: “You’re not from the Bronx if you don’t know this THOT.” It broke my heart. But it’s typical. Anna likes guys, so Anna had sex...once. Expressing your feeling toward a guy (whether it’s “I’m into you” or “I’m not into you”) doesn’t make you a THOT. Nothing that you ever do makes you a THOT.

That day, I flagged and reported the picture— because that was my friend up there. We’ve all got to start saying enough is enough.

Slut: A Play and Guidebook for Combating Sexism and Sexual Violence, edited by Katie Cappiello & Meg McInerney and published by the Feminist Press, $15.16. 

Photo by Imani Givertz

Premiering today via NYLON

Small Talks, aka Cayley Spivey, has come a long way since starting a band, then becoming the entire band herself and forging her own fan base from the ground up. On her recent album A Conversation Between Us, she began to unpack any lingering baggage with one particular song: "Teeth." Today, she premieres the accompanying music video exclusively via NYLON.

"'Teeth' is about my personal battle with letting go of the past," Spivey tells NYLON, admitting that it's easily her favorite song off of A Conversation Between Us.

Watch the video for "Teeth" below.

Small Talks - Teeth (Official Music Video) - YouTube www.youtube.com

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Must have been pretty awkward

Taylor Swift and Sophie Turner were guests on the U.K.'s The Graham Norton Show together, which must have been awkward for Turner's husband, Joe Jonas, seeing as he also happens to be Swift's ex. I wonder if his name came up?

The interview doesn't come out until Friday night, but promotional photos show the two sharing a couch. Swift is making an appearance to perform her new single, "ME!" while Turner is promoting her new film, X- Men: Dark Phoenix. But it seems necessary for the two to be asked about Jonas.

Swift was just on the Ellen DeGeneres Show earlier this month, where she brought up the fact that she felt bad for putting Jonas "on blast" on DeGeneres' show back in 2008 by telling the audience that he broke up with her in a record-setting short phone call. But, according to Swift, she and Jonas are chill now, since it happened pretty long ago, which means she's probably already hung out with Turner and maybe even gossiped about him with her.

We can only hope that they get the chance to spill some tea on television.

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Screenshot via YouTube, Photo Courtesy of HBO

"That's! His! Auntie!"

Leslie Jones has rewatched the Game of Thrones finale with a beer in hand, Seth Meyers at her side, and a full camera crew ready to take in all her glorious reactions. Spoilers ahead, but, if you haven't watched last week's episode already, that's kind of on you at this point.

When Jon Snow started to make out with Daenerys, also known as his aunt, only to stab her through the chest moments later, it was emotional whiplash for everyone watching. And, Jones' reactions—both from her first and second viewing—sum it all perfectly.

"That's! His! Auntie! [gagging noises]," Jones says before making an aside about calling the police if her uncle ever tried to do the same. But then the knife goes in, and Jones screams. "Did you see that?!" Jones asks, "Yeah bitch, that's a knife in you." Meyers points out the funniest part of all: "Why are you so upset about someone kissing their aunt but totally fine with someone killing their aunt?" Jones replies, "Because that bitch needed to go," and, well, same.

Other highlights from the comedians' rewatch include comparing Dany's victory speech to a bad improv gig, predicting that their dogs would have less of a reaction to their deaths than Drogon did to his mother's, and more.

Watch all of Jones' reactions from this Late Night clip below.

Game of Jones: Leslie Jones and Seth Watch Game of Thrones' Series Finale youtu.be

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These lyrics are a lot

Robbie Tripp, aka Curvy Wife Guy, is back with a music video, titled "Chubby Sexy," starring his wife and a trio of models. In it, Tripp raps about his bold choice to find women with an average body size attractive.

The video begins with a series of statements laid over some pool water: "Curves are the new high fashion," "Chubby is the new sexy," "We Out Here." Tripp posits that these queens deserve an anthem, which they do. What they do not deserve is this Cursed Song. As he lists all the names he knows to call them by (thick, thicc, and BBW), one model (who I really, really hope was paid well) squirts some lotion down her cleavage, and Tripp begins dancing.

"My girl chubby sexy/ Call her bonita gordita," Tripp states in his chorus, before going on to compare "big booty meat" to the peach emoji. Another thing he mentions is that his wife can't find a belt that fits her waist, and that's why he calls her James and the Giant Peach. He then tries to dab. Here are some of the other Cursed highlights from his, uh, verses:

Got those Khaleesi curves/ Knows how to dragon slay
She like a dude that's woke/ We like a girl that's weighty
Some say a chubby girl that's risky/ But they ain't met a curvy girl that's frisky
Imma dunk that donk like I'm Andrew Wiggins.
Thick like an Amazon/ Built like Big Ben.

Tripp says one thing in the video that I couldn't agree more with: "She don't need a man." No, she does not. Please run. If you must, watch the entire video, below. Or send it to your nemesis!

Robbie Tripp - Chubby Sexy (Official Music Video) www.youtube.com

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Photo by Emma McIntyre / Getty Images.

See the promo here

It was bound to happen. The Kadashians and Jenners have committed themselves to letting the cameras roll on their lives, for better or for worse. So if you thought that the Jordyn Woods and Tristan Thompson cheating scandal was off limits, you thought wrong. The trailer for Sunday's episode of Keeping Up with the Kardashians was just released, and it involves the famous family working through the fallout of what happened when Woods went to a party at Thompson's house.

The teaser includes the infamous clip of Khloé Kardashian screaming "LIAAAARRRRRR." It's still not explicitly clear who prompted that strong response. She could be responding to Thompson, who clearly isn't always honest. Or she could be reacting to Woods account of the events on Red Table Talk. But the most revealing moment comes when we see Kylie Jenner—who was Woods' best friend before all of this happened—react for the first time.

In a heart-to-heart conversation, momager Kris Jenner says, "For you and Jordyn, it's like a divorce." Kylie only offers this in response: "She fucked up." Based on Woods' version of events—which I'm inclined to believeThompson is the one who fucked up. Still, I'm hoping for some kind of reconciliation between the two longtime friends. Perhaps we'll have to wait until next season for that.

Check out the promo video below.

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