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How To Work Out With Your Partner

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Buddy up!

Running with a friend. Riding bikes with a spouse. Rock climbing with a boyfriend—whether you’re the more toned, buff well-trained athlete in this partnership or the slower newbie, working out with someone else can be tough. But it can also push you to be better at any workout, turn a hike into social hour, and be a great bonding experience for you and your buddy. Before you head out on your next partner adventure, though, keep a few things in mind.

Try a New Sport or Take a Class Together
Finding something that the two of you are both new at can be a lot more fun than a newbie-expert situation. Since you’re both on the same learning curve, you can actually enjoy the activity as beginners, learning the ropes together. Surfing, rock climbing (at a climbing gym if you’re a beginner, so you can learn the ropes!), or canoeing can be great ways enjoy a workout and have fun together. Classes are great for this, as well. With something like a boot camp, you can adjust to your abilities easily by choosing weights that work for you, but you’ll be able to hang out the whole time. And a crazier class like aerial silks or burlesque for beginners can lead to a lot of post-workout laughs and stories.

Don’t Expect Perfection
Couples workouts might look great on Instagram, but trust me, behind the scenes, there’s plenty of stress, annoyance, and snippiness that goes on. There’s no such thing as a picture-perfect effortless run or tandem bike ride. So don’t feel bad when a workout goes sideways, or when your partner needs to stop and wait while you pee behind a tree during a trail run and get a mosquito bite on your bum as a result. Try to laugh about the mishaps and stop looking for the perfect day.

Separate, Come Together
If your partner is trying to run intervals and you’re just out for a jog (or vice versa), you can go your separate ways for the middle chunk of the workout, and hang out in the beginning and at the end. Start with a warm-up walk or jog and finish with a cool-down walk or jog together. However you organize it, just know that you don’t have to be together all the time during your training. (That concept alone usually goes a long way toward keeping the peace.) If you opt for this, make sure you set a designated meeting spot and time to come back together once you split off, though.

Get Stationary
If you and your partner have very different athletic ability levels, consider training in a stationary way at the gym. Treadmill, elliptical, stair climbers, and spin bikes are great because you can go at your own pace without getting separated. Outside, track workouts (running loops around a local high school track) can work for this, since you can run at your own pace and meet up after certain laps to rest and recover.

Don’t Judge
I hate to say this, but in training and workouts, the worst side of people can come out. (True story: I made my younger sister cry the one time I tried to get her to come running with me. I have also been known to burst into tears on the mountain bike trails with my pro racer husband. So I’ve been on both sides of the emotional spectrum in workouts.) It’s hard because your blood is pumping, emotions are running high, and it’s easy to turn a minor “you took the wrong trail” moment into a friendship-ender or a relationship red flag. But just because your boyfriend forgot the bike pump, and you’re tired and ready to be home but are stuck waiting for him to patch a flat, doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed.

When the Going Gets Tough… Try Yoga Breathing
Getting a little emotional? Whether you’re annoyed that your friend doesn’t seem to be even trying to keep up, or your husband has dropped you to do a few effortless sprints (jerk), you could probably stand to take a few deep, cleansing breathes. Slow to a walk, or stop altogether, and breathe in for a count of four, and exhale for a count of four. Repeat this a few times, possibly repeating a mantra (“I do this because it’s fun” is a good one) in your head as you breathe. You might still be angry, but at least your body will move out of red alert mode and let you relax and unclench a little.

Don’t Be Afraid to Say When It’s Not Working
You don’t have to work out with your boyfriend, husband, spouse, or best friend. And if every time you get together to train, you end up feeling terrible about yourself, getting irritable with your partner, or just end up feeling like your workout didn’t accomplish what you’d hoped it would, it’s okay to say it’s not working for you. You can either stop working out with that person or change how you’re exercising together. Maybe your best friend is a post-gym coffee date hangout, while your office wife is a better spin class support system. Sometimes, our workout styles don’t mesh. Maybe your husband wants to chat while you run, but you’re struggling to catch your breath and end runs feeling pissed instead of exhilarated. In that case, you might consider swapping those runs for long walks where chatting is easier.

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Well, actually it's crocodile, but she looks out of this world so...

Winnie Harlow walked the Cannes red carpet on Wednesday on her way to a screening of Oh Mercy!, wearing a showstopping gown.

The sheer black dress featured green embroidery on the front and back, which Ralph and Russo confirmed was in the shape of a crocodile. She belted the dress with a black crocodile skin-like belt and finished the look off with some strappy heels. She didn't leave it at just that. For beauty, Harlow packed on full lids of sparkly purple eyeshadow. She kept her hair sleek and simple.

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Though the brand says otherwise, as Game of Thrones fans, we'd like to think the embroidery is reminiscent of a dragon's skin. Not to mention, Harlow looks out-of-this-world beautiful in it.

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That denim kimono!!

Marion Cotillard shut down the Cannes red carpet on Wednesday at a screening for Matthias Et Maxime. Instead of an extravagant gown that's expected of the event, Cotillard wore a matching black crop top and shorts. Despite wearing an outfit I typically don to a hot yoga class, she looks incredible. She completed the look with an oversized denim kimono, a statement necklace, and heeled booties.

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At first, I was drawn in by the crop top and hotpants duo, but, after looking closer at the kimono, it's clear that it's the real scene-stealer. The floor-length Balmain piece was decorated with artful rips and dragon motifs. I would like to live in it.

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Let's all bow down to the Khaleesi of Cannes.

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"It doesn't make you weak to ask for help"

Singer Billie Eilish is continuing to open up about mental health, this time in a new PSA video in partnership with the Ad Council and Seize the Awkward.

In the video, Eilish insists that "it doesn't make you weak to ask for help." She doubles down on the importance of asking for help, and stresses the importance of friends and family being there when their close ones reach out and checking in on them as well. "You should be able to ask anyone for help, everyone has to help someone if they need it." According to Eilish, there have been times when someone reached out to her at the exact moment she needed it, and it helped.

It was particularly refreshing to see Eilish acknowledge that there are things she still doesn't know and has to learn about her mental health. At the very beginning of the video, the interviewer asks her to reflect on her mental health journey, and all Eilish can do is let out chortle. "I think when people hear, 'Remember to take care of your mental health,' they think that everyone else is, and that is not at all accurate," she admitted. "You know, for me I'm trying to learn still to make sure that I stay okay."

Check out the PSA below.

Billie Eilish On Mental Health & Friendship | Ad Council www.youtube.com

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"#NotOnMyMoodBoard"

Kim Kardashian has definitely been accused of borrowing a design now and then. But when Instagram influencer and Kardashian look-alike Kamilla Osman claimed the entrepreneur copied her birthday look for a Met Gala after-party, Kardashian was not going to let it fly—and shared plenty of photo evidence to shut down the claim.

Fashion industry watchdog Diet Prada first noticed Osman's claims on Instagram and shared side-by-side images of Kardashian's Cher-inspired outfit designed by Mugler and Osman's dress. "Never get confused with who 'inspires' who. They won't give you credit but they will copy," Osman wrote on her IG story. "I designed this dress for my birthday last year. Nobody had a dress like this was an original design."

Kardashian responded by posting the true inspiration behind her look: images of Cher, in similarly sparkly, plunging-neckline dresses and wigs, and of model Yasmeen Ghauri walking a Mugler show in the '90s. In fact, the only similarity between Osman's and Kardashian's looks is the bodycon mini-dress style, which the two are not the first to wear. Among the images, Kardashian included a blank slide with the hashtag "NotOnMyMoodBoard," making it clear that this was in response to Osman's claims.

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Screenshot via @KimKardashian Instagram Stories

Though I am with Kim on this one, Kardashian does have a history of co-opting other people's work. From being sued over her Kimoji app, to claims she copied makeup palettes and perfume bottle designs, to being accused of copying Naomi Campbell's entire style, it's far from the first (and probably, far from the last) time Kardashian's name will be mentioned like this.

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After delivered the perfect pep talk

When Lena Waithe took over as a guest host on Jimmy Kimmel Live, her first time ever as a late-night host, actress and friend Halle Berry knew exactly how to pump her up. After Kimmel's security guard Guillermo Rodriguez hit the "Berry Button" (a large button on the wall that says just that), Berry came running out in a backless tee and boyfriend jeans to give Waithe a pep talk... and plant one on her.

Berry rolled in as if she'd just jogged from hanging out with her friends to come to Waithe's immediate aid, joking she wasn't dressed for the occasion; but, let's be real, she could wear a paper bag, and we wouldn't complain. Waithe requested the "Halle Berry juice," similar to her 2002 Oscars speech, and Berry immediately had the lights turned down low and jumped into inspirational speech mode.

"I know that you are a force of nature. You are a beautiful African-American queen going after everything that is hers," Berry said before going on to list Waithe's many titles and accomplishments. She jokingly concluded, "And you already winning, girl, 'cause you are dressed way better than Jimmy ever will," before asking if Waithe needed anything else. Clearly, Waithe thought that was all Berry was there to do, because she said no, but Berry insisted she needed one more thing before grabbing Waithe's face and surprising her with a kiss. "Wow," Waithe reacted after Berry pulled away, and honestly same!

Watch the video, below.

Lena Waithe's Guest Host Monologue on Jimmy Kimmel Live youtu.be

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