The Emotional Stages of a Breakup As Told By Your Outfit


Read: When the sweats are out, back away

Breakups: We’ve all been there. Even the most self-assured and confident people can be deeply affected by a breakup, and whether you are the dumper or the dumpee, parting ways is never easy.

The first time I had my heart truly broken, my outfits were all over the place. Some were barely presentable to walk down to the lobby of my building to meet the delivery guy, and some were so out there that strangers on the subway would blatantly stare at me and wonder if I had just run away from the circus. I remembered feeling sad, angry, and definitely a little lost. 

We present the five stages of the post-breakup wardrobe, from downing a pint of Ben & Jerry's and sobbing into your pillow to the moment you've decided you're ready to rebound and give love another chance.

Stage 1: Heartbreak
There is nothing more jarring than the first few days of a breakup, especially one that you didn't see coming. Feel free to put plans on hold for a few days and cozy up in pieces that scream comfort. Basically, you should feel like you're being constantly hugged.

H&M, Cropped Brooklyn Sweatshirt, $18, available at H&M; Topshop, Joggers, $20, available at Topshop; Topshop, Fuzzy Sliders, $44, available at Topshop; Madewell, Ankle Socks, $9.50, available at Madewell.

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While the song should serve as a reminder to your exes

Just a day after dropping new single "Nunya," featuring Dom Kennedy, Kehlani has released the winter-wonderland visuals to go along with. The singer, NYLON November cover star, and mother-to-be rocks some of the best winter 'fits I've seen in a while, including a glorious puffer jacket that could double as a down comforter that I absolutely need in my life right now.

Kehlani is clearly living her best life up in some snow-filled forest hideaway, vibing on the beach at sunset and sipping on something bubbly as she coolly reminds nosy exes that who she's with is "nunya business." There's not much of a story line (unlike her recent "Nights Like This" video); the main takeaway is that Kehlani is busy dancing through a forest, missing no one and chilling amongst people who are clearly not the subjects of the song.

Kehlani is only two short months away from bringing baby Adeya into the world, who she thanked for helping her get through the video process. "Shot that 7 months pregnant in da snow..." Kehlani wrote on Twitter, adding, "thank u baby for da motivation, mommy was FROZE."

Even from the womb, Adeya has been hustling hard alongside her momma. Twitter user @ODtheMC pointed out that this is already her second music video appearance, and she's not even been born.

Get some mulled wine ready and escape into Kehlani's winter getaway, below. Stay tuned for her forthcoming mixtape, While We Wait, out on February 22.

Kehlani - Nunya (feat. Dom Kennedy) [Official Music Video]



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As in Black Panther Political Party leader

It's been a running joke that the Black parents/grandparents of millennials were really confused about all of the Black Panther hoopla ahead of its 2018 release. Many of them were anticipating a movie about members of the Black Panther Political Party and didn't know who the hell T'Challa was. Well, those people are about to have their moment, and we're about to have another one.

Variety is reporting that Fred Hampton, the Black Panther leader at the center of the upcoming biopic Jesus Was My Homeboy, could be played by none other than Daniel Kaluuya. Apparently, he is in negotiations for the role. And he's not the only Black Panther alum in the mix. The Warner Bros. project is being produced by Black Panther director, Ryan Coogler. The same article reports that the forever swoon-worthy Lakeith Stanfield—who appeared with Kaluuya in Jordan Peele's Get Out—is also in negotiations, to play William O'Neal, an FBI informant who infiltrated the Black Panther Party.

Coogler and Charles King are putting together a dream cast to tell a difficult story. Hampton was killed by the Chicago Police Department, while his pregnant girlfriend lay next to him, thanks in part to information they received from O'Neal. Whenever it's out, I strongly recommend having Black Panther queued up as a palate cleanser.