Why Boring Holiday Gifts Make The Best Holiday Gifts


Our unpopular holiday opinion: Give us all the candles

Just a couple of weeks ago, we published a story titled "Unwrapped: What NYLON Editors Want." I selected a pair of chunky gold hoop earrings that I’d seen floating around Instagram, and have since convinced myself that I—a girl who hasn’t worn a pair of earrings for more than a couple of hours since high school—would actually wear them. But that’s a lie, a fake-out. It's a cool-girl gift that I’d like people to think I want, when, in reality, what I really want is a rice cooker.

It’s this one from Urban Outfitters, which not only panders to me as a millennial but also as a person trying to eat out less and be an adult more. It’s something I know I’d get a lot of use out of (it doubles as a slow cooker!), but it’s also something I feel weird asking for. It’s a boring gift, and yet sometimes, boring things make the best holiday gifts.

This isn’t a longstanding opinion I’ve had by any means; rather, it’s one that came with age. Like every spoiled child under the age of 15, my brattiness really came out around the holidays. I had a method for opening presents: I would avoid the rectangular boxes because, more often than not, those included clothes I neither wanted nor asked for. I would only pull out the gift cards and trinkets from my stocking and purposely leave the clementine my mom always slipped in at the bottom. I only cared about the top-of-the-Christmas-list items: the toys, first, and then, as I got older, the electronics or designer items.

Don’t get me wrong, material items are great and can provide you with a certain high. If there’s ever a time to be aspirational, it’s when the charge is going on someone else’s card. But the things that you ask for in the moment of making a wish list—a $995 winter coat, for example—are typically things you’re going to tire of in a year. That joy is almost always fleeting. Now, the practical items—the socks, underwear, pajamas, candles, knives, home appliances, wine glasses—those are the things you’ll actually use or wear more than once. They’re also the things you know you should buy, but don’t want to spend your own money on. You know what’s been on the bottom of my to-get list for months now? All of the things I just listed.

If my argument isn’t connecting with you, you’re probably of a certain age. These gifts can be seen as lazy or overplayed to younger people. I get that. They're "adult" gifts, and "adult" gifts are decidedly not that exciting. But if the person you’re giving it to is living on their own and living off their own income, chances are, they’ll appreciate these items more than you (or even they at the time of receiving) know.

And shit, if they don’t want it, I’ll sure as hell take it.

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Showtime just ordered a pilot episode of Casallina "Cathy" Kisakye's comedy anthology series, which will be executive-produced by Lena Waithe. The show, called How to Make Love to a Black Woman (Who May Be Working Through Some Shit), sounds like it'll be... informative.

According to The Hollywood Reporter, though the series is a comedy, it will also touch on some vulnerable subjects as well. It described the show as being about "connection and rejection that explore our most harrowing—and harrowingly comic—sexual secrets." Waithe said in a statement about the news, "Cathy's script is haunting, funny, and extremely vulnerable—it's the kind of script that doesn't come around very often." She continues, showing her excitement for the project: "I'm honored that Cathy trusts me with such a special project. I can't wait for the world to see it."

Kisakye, who previously worked with Waithe on The Chi, says that the show is close to her heart, and that the series will portray three-dimensional, complex women. "With How to Make Love, I'm thrilled to tell stories about the women I know, who are complicated, passionate, resilient, and relatable," she said in a statement.

Kisakye is the creator of the show, and will be writing the pilot script. It's the latest project to come to Showtime through Waithe's first-look deal and, according to The Hollywood Reporter, should it go to series, this would be the first anthology for the network.



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While the song should serve as a reminder to your exes

Just a day after dropping new single "Nunya," featuring Dom Kennedy, Kehlani has released the winter-wonderland visuals to go along with. The singer, NYLON November cover star, and mother-to-be rocks some of the best winter 'fits I've seen in a while, including a glorious puffer jacket that could double as a down comforter that I absolutely need in my life right now.

Kehlani is clearly living her best life up in some snow-filled forest hideaway, vibing on the beach at sunset and sipping on something bubbly as she coolly reminds nosy exes that who she's with is "nunya business." There's not much of a story line (unlike her recent "Nights Like This" video); the main takeaway is that Kehlani is busy dancing through a forest, missing no one and chilling amongst people who are clearly not the subjects of the song.

Kehlani is only two short months away from bringing baby Adeya into the world, who she thanked for helping her get through the video process. "Shot that 7 months pregnant in da snow..." Kehlani wrote on Twitter, adding, "thank u baby for da motivation, mommy was FROZE."

Even from the womb, Adeya has been hustling hard alongside her momma. Twitter user @ODtheMC pointed out that this is already her second music video appearance, and she's not even been born.

Get some mulled wine ready and escape into Kehlani's winter getaway, below. Stay tuned for her forthcoming mixtape, While We Wait, out on February 22.

Kehlani - Nunya (feat. Dom Kennedy) [Official Music Video]