So, You Want To Get Your Genitalia Pierced


Here's what you should know

Piercings done... down there are taboo; they're rarely talked about unless with a partner or a really, really close friend. People barely talk about sex, why would they talk about their private parts? Well, this is part of the reason why genitalia piercings are so stigmatized: If people don't talk about it, you won't learn about it. So, let's talk about it.

First thing to know: There are a couple of different kinds of genital piercings that women can get done (female anatomy is expansive, dammit). Vicki Rose of 28 Studios does a variety, including the 'Christina' piercing, "which is going to be right above where your outer labia meets your pubic mound." Then there's the 'Princess Albertina' (which is a play off of the male genitalia piercing called the 'Prince Albert'), which "goes through the urethra and comes out of the vaginal opening." There's also a 'Triangle' piercing which "goes horizontally through the clitoral hood and passes underneath, behind the clitoris and behind the clitoral shaft." A 'Fourchette' is placed "where the vaginal opening meets the inner labia." Finally, there's the outer and inner labial piercings, and the most popular and most common, the hood, which is the layer of skin above the clitoris. This can be pierced either vertically (also known as VCH) or horizontally (HCH).

There's a common misconception that women who choose to get these kinds of piercings are sexually adventurous, to put it mildly. But Rose says that it's not so easy to judge who does and doesn't have a genital piercing. "I do these on all types of clients, from people in the medical field to lawyers," she says. "Anyone you could think of could be walking around with one of these and you'd not know it."

Brian Keith Thompson of Body Electric agrees. "Decorating your genitals is just decorating your genitals," he explains. It doesn't necessarily mean you have sex more or less often than the next person. "Just like decorating your ears doesn't mean you like more music better than someone who doesn't."

With that said, there can be sexual benefits to these piercings. Rose points out that, with piercings like the VCH and HCH, the bar bead, which often rests on top of the clitoris, can be used by yourself or with your partner as a means of stimulation. While others, like labia piercings, can stimulate the penis during intercourse as the metal rubs against it. Rose points out that the Triangle piercing is probably considered the most stimulating piercing out of the vulva bunch.

You might've noticed that a lot of these piercings involve areas around the clitoris and not the clitoris itself. While Rose says she does have people ask for that, she tends to turn them down because the clitoris has to be pretty large in order to be pierced. In fact, a lot of these piercings are anatomy dependent, which means that you should consult with your piercer in advance of getting it done. No two vulvas are alike, after all. For VCH and HCH piercings, Thompson points out that a lot of piercers tend to do the "Q-tip" test, which basically includes bringing the head of a Q-tip underneath the hood, "and if the Q-tip is covered by the hood, then there's generally enough room." Thompson tells us: "You want to give your client what they want and how they want it. But a lot of times, the anatomy doesn't support what you want to get, so you can always adjust and get something else. Instead of going vertically, you can go horizontally, etc."

As far as pain goes, just like nipple piercings aren't as scary as you think, the same applies to this area. It all comes down to mind over matter. "I would say pain is relative," Rose says. "It's more of the emotional toll of actually thinking about it, deciding to go through with it, and knowing that you are putting yourself in pain. If they were that bad, no one would get them done." Thompson adds: "Basically, just get your mind right if you want to do it. I'd say get in a good frame of mind and get it at a time when you have the time to heal it."

Speaking of healing, most piercings in the genitalia area should take from eight to 12 weeks to be fully healed. Aftercare should involve saline flushes, and you should try to avoid using anything abrasive (wash clothes, loofahs) or super-crazy scented body washes in that area. "Honestly, you could do nothing to the piercing at all and just splash it with water prior to getting out of the shower," Rose says. "They're very quick, easy healers."

But, you should abstain from sex for a while, because (a) ouch and (b) "you're basically just trying to avoid sharing fluids with your partner, so that your body's own bacteria and natural composition can heal the piercing itself," Rose explains. And don't worry about going crazy with maintenance down there before getting it done. Rose says it doesn't bother her either way if you shave or not, adding, however: "If we're doing outer labia piercings on a vulva, then it might be a little more comfortable for the wearer to have shaved or trimmed a little." She also says you should consult your piercer on whether they care or not if you're menstruating on the day you're getting pierced (she doesn't).

Now that you know all of the logistics, remember that you don't need a reason other than wanting to get it done in order to actually get it done. Rose shares that she has a lot of older clients come in requesting genitalia piercings; women comfortable with their bodies who are looking for a little excitement and to switch things up. She also has some people use the piercings as a way of confronting emotional or physical trauma and thus reclaiming their bodies as their own. The choice is ultimately yours. Rose says that she's had hers done a few times and passes along this reminder: It can be temporary if you want it to be. "It's not like a tattoo where you have to go through multiple laser sessions to remove something that you're not pleased with… If you were to get a piercing and are not happy with the results or don't like the way that it visibly looks on you, it's something that you can remove very easily and something that you could redo in the future if you decide that you want to do it again."

Photo by Imani Givertz

Premiering today via NYLON

Small Talks, aka Cayley Spivey, has come a long way since starting a band, then becoming the entire band herself and forging her own fan base from the ground up. On her recent album A Conversation Between Us, she began to unpack any lingering baggage with one particular song: "Teeth." Today, she premieres the accompanying music video exclusively via NYLON.

"'Teeth' is about my personal battle with letting go of the past," Spivey tells NYLON, admitting that it's easily her favorite song off of A Conversation Between Us.

Watch the video for "Teeth" below.

Small Talks - Teeth (Official Music Video) - YouTube

Photos by Joe Maher/Getty Images, Dimitrios Kambouris/Getty Images for TIME

Must have been pretty awkward

Taylor Swift and Sophie Turner were guests on the U.K.'s The Graham Norton Show together, which must have been awkward for Turner's husband, Joe Jonas, seeing as he also happens to be Swift's ex. I wonder if his name came up?

The interview doesn't come out until Friday night, but promotional photos show the two sharing a couch. Swift is making an appearance to perform her new single, "ME!" while Turner is promoting her new film, X- Men: Dark Phoenix. But it seems necessary for the two to be asked about Jonas.

Swift was just on the Ellen DeGeneres Show earlier this month, where she brought up the fact that she felt bad for putting Jonas "on blast" on DeGeneres' show back in 2008 by telling the audience that he broke up with her in a record-setting short phone call. But, according to Swift, she and Jonas are chill now, since it happened pretty long ago, which means she's probably already hung out with Turner and maybe even gossiped about him with her.

We can only hope that they get the chance to spill some tea on television.

Screenshot via YouTube, Photo Courtesy of HBO

"That's! His! Auntie!"

Leslie Jones has rewatched the Game of Thrones finale with a beer in hand, Seth Meyers at her side, and a full camera crew ready to take in all her glorious reactions. Spoilers ahead, but, if you haven't watched last week's episode already, that's kind of on you at this point.

When Jon Snow started to make out with Daenerys, also known as his aunt, only to stab her through the chest moments later, it was emotional whiplash for everyone watching. And, Jones' reactions—both from her first and second viewing—sum it all perfectly.

"That's! His! Auntie! [gagging noises]," Jones says before making an aside about calling the police if her uncle ever tried to do the same. But then the knife goes in, and Jones screams. "Did you see that?!" Jones asks, "Yeah bitch, that's a knife in you." Meyers points out the funniest part of all: "Why are you so upset about someone kissing their aunt but totally fine with someone killing their aunt?" Jones replies, "Because that bitch needed to go," and, well, same.

Other highlights from the comedians' rewatch include comparing Dany's victory speech to a bad improv gig, predicting that their dogs would have less of a reaction to their deaths than Drogon did to his mother's, and more.

Watch all of Jones' reactions from this Late Night clip below.

Game of Jones: Leslie Jones and Seth Watch Game of Thrones' Series Finale

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These lyrics are a lot

Robbie Tripp, aka Curvy Wife Guy, is back with a music video, titled "Chubby Sexy," starring his wife and a trio of models. In it, Tripp raps about his bold choice to find women with an average body size attractive.

The video begins with a series of statements laid over some pool water: "Curves are the new high fashion," "Chubby is the new sexy," "We Out Here." Tripp posits that these queens deserve an anthem, which they do. What they do not deserve is this Cursed Song. As he lists all the names he knows to call them by (thick, thicc, and BBW), one model (who I really, really hope was paid well) squirts some lotion down her cleavage, and Tripp begins dancing.

"My girl chubby sexy/ Call her bonita gordita," Tripp states in his chorus, before going on to compare "big booty meat" to the peach emoji. Another thing he mentions is that his wife can't find a belt that fits her waist, and that's why he calls her James and the Giant Peach. He then tries to dab. Here are some of the other Cursed highlights from his, uh, verses:

Got those Khaleesi curves/ Knows how to dragon slay
She like a dude that's woke/ We like a girl that's weighty
Some say a chubby girl that's risky/ But they ain't met a curvy girl that's frisky
Imma dunk that donk like I'm Andrew Wiggins.
Thick like an Amazon/ Built like Big Ben.

Tripp says one thing in the video that I couldn't agree more with: "She don't need a man." No, she does not. Please run. If you must, watch the entire video, below. Or send it to your nemesis!

Robbie Tripp - Chubby Sexy (Official Music Video)

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See the promo here

It was bound to happen. The Kadashians and Jenners have committed themselves to letting the cameras roll on their lives, for better or for worse. So if you thought that the Jordyn Woods and Tristan Thompson cheating scandal was off limits, you thought wrong. The trailer for Sunday's episode of Keeping Up with the Kardashians was just released, and it involves the famous family working through the fallout of what happened when Woods went to a party at Thompson's house.

The teaser includes the infamous clip of Khloé Kardashian screaming "LIAAAARRRRRR." It's still not explicitly clear who prompted that strong response. She could be responding to Thompson, who clearly isn't always honest. Or she could be reacting to Woods account of the events on Red Table Talk. But the most revealing moment comes when we see Kylie Jenner—who was Woods' best friend before all of this happened—react for the first time.

In a heart-to-heart conversation, momager Kris Jenner says, "For you and Jordyn, it's like a divorce." Kylie only offers this in response: "She fucked up." Based on Woods' version of events—which I'm inclined to believeThompson is the one who fucked up. Still, I'm hoping for some kind of reconciliation between the two longtime friends. Perhaps we'll have to wait until next season for that.

Check out the promo video below.